Tuesday, June 29, 2010


What do you think? Changed things around a little and made it kind of "clean" in appearance so to speak. I really like it a lot. It was so hard to decide and then it just seemed to fit.
Would love to hear your input and thoughts?
Anything to add?
Anything to change?
Anything that you would like to discuss?
Would you be interested in being a "Guest Blogger"?

Please chime in and let me know!!!!!!!!
Welcome to the new and improved......Mothering The Mother Blog!!!!!!

Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam

I'm Still Here!!!!!!

Changes are on the way!!!!!!!!

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Happy Father's Day

Well, its Sunday evening and I know that this is a post that should have been up a long time ago today but it has taken til now to get it on here so bear with me.
FIRST OFF---- Happy Father's Day!!!!!! I have been blessed with an awesome Father!!!!! I was, think I still am, Daddy's little girl, even if I am 40 something. My Daddy has always been a strong Christian, hard working and loving man. Yes, he can discipline but only when it was necessary and I truly believe that "It hurt him more than me". He has stood beside me when I made mistakes, hurt and disappointed him but he never stopped pursuing me and pushing me to be what I could be. For that Daddy, I love you!!!!!!!

Secondly, this is the part that breaks my heart and it just hurts me to know that others are hurting. No names will be mentioned but when they read, they will know who they are.
I have a great friend. We have know each other for over 20+ years. He is an awesome man. We haven't seen each other except in photo's on line here and there since 1986....wow it's been a long time. Anyway, he has a daughter. Not sure when the last time he laid eyes on her but she has chosen to forget the fact that he exist. How does one do that when you know how much they love you and how much they care. I sent him a text this morning to wish him a Happy Father's day and it was bittersweet the response I got. It just broke my heart.
I have another friend that I have known for about .....well, I'm not really sure, she has just kind of always been there. Her situation is a bit different. You see, her father doesn't agree with her family, she and her husband, and he has chosen to behave in a manner that takes she and her family out of his life. To the point of acting as if she doesn't exist. I know that today is a hard day for her. I can't imagine. She still loves him. She still cares about him. He has made a choice and that choice has affected so many in her life. I have been thinking of her all day and I hope she knows it.
I have another friend. He is a dear sweet man. He is a prayer warrior. He is a friend. He is such a man after the Lord's heart. I have seen him weep over lost friends and family. Today his children didn't acknowledge him. For the life of me I don't get it. Do we have any idea what our choices do to those precious loved one's around us?
I could go on and on and on. If you are having a difficult day today, please know that you have been on my heart. I have been praying for you even if I don't know you by name.

Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam

Monday, June 14, 2010

It's MONDAY!!!!!

How was your weekend? Mine was great but just so busy. Amazing that you can cram so much into 2 days of not having to work. But I guess that is why we plan to do EVERYTHING possible in those very short 2 days.
We are finally going to get away for a few days and attempt to rest. That will be the challenge is to rest. Will it happen? We will have to wait and see.
Mothering The Mother is going through some changes that are all good and exciting. I'm excited and ready but nervous all at the same time. It an adventure and I have always said that from the beginning. It's His and I am just His hands. I have a lot to share and there never seems to be enough time.
We had a great time at church yesterday. I listened as our choir sang a song by the Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir called "I never lost my praise". I have to confess I was disobedient. I should have been on my feet with both hands in the air and my face lifted. It was just awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Then to top it all off we had one of our own preaching. Our Pastor is at the SBC Convention in Florida. Terry did an awesome job as usual. It is just such a blessing for me to watch him grow. I can remember the first time that he preached and yesterday morning was one of those times where you could not help but to see the growth and the fruit! It was incredible. It was a message that I needed so badly to hear. Praise the Lord that Terry listened and obeyed and in turn, blessed my socks off!!!!!
It was a great weekend. What did you do this weekend? Anything exciting? Please do share!!!!!!!

Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam

Friday, June 11, 2010

Five Question Friday

1. What do you think makes a good friend, or friendship? Being completely transparent. You can be at your worst or your best and they still stick with you. Being able to be told that you were wrong and it hurts them more than you and visa-verso.

2. What is the last thing you bought & later regretted? The bathing suit from last summer. It was really cute when I bought it but now I think it looks a little frumpy. I don't want to look "frumpy" and I certainly don't want to look old.

3. Have you ever had a prank played on you? I think that would have to be the year I turned 40. My hubby managed to get me to leave early so he could come and "decorate" my office. To say that it was gentle is not even close. There were streamers every where. There was silly string on EVERYTHING!!!!!! I was totally overwhelmed and shocked.

4. What is your favorite theme park? That would for sure be Disney World and all of the other "parks" that are attached. It is just THE BEST!!!! You can't help but be a kid. Just bring the $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

5. Have you ever seen someone else give birth? FOR SURE!!!!!!! Just had my "25th-child". It is absolutely amazing and it's NEVER the same twice!!!!!!!! It is a moment and time for the family that is so personal and so intimate and they invited me to be a part of it!!!!! I am humbled!!!!!!
Have an AWESOME Friday!!!!!!!!!!! Jump in on the fun!!!!!!!
Laboring with You,
Doula Mama Pam
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Thursday, June 10, 2010

Thoughtful Thursday

What a beautiful day outside. It is just fantastic. I would love to be leaving here to go and run before work but this body won't get up and go. That's ok, got in 3 miles last night on the treadmill and then "ran" for 4 minutes with the treadmill turned off. That is a challenge but THANK YOU Jillian for that.
Things are going good at present and getting ready for the beach. It is a break that is soooo very much needed and we are just so excited. The Lord is just blessing us from every direction and for that we are so very thankful. It's amazing!!!!!!
What is He doing in your life? Have you thought about that lately? If things are going great, we have the tendency to just do what we think and not give credit to the One who is allowing it. We only think about what He is doing when things are not going good. We are so busy crying out. So, in light of it being Thoughtful Thursday, what about you. Have you thought about Him and what He is doing in your life?
Please feel free to share!!!!!!!
Have a wonderful day!!!!!!!
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam

Tuesday, June 8, 2010


Ok, so I have chosen to pick a day of the week to share about Doula's. This may be statistics on having a Doula present, what is a Doula, who is a Doula and other information pertaining to anything pregnancy or childbirth related or even during the postpartum time period. This would also be a "Ask Doula Mama A Question" Day as well. Anything in particular that you would like to talk about, this is where we can do it.!!!! I hope you will join me. Post your question in the comments and we will have fun answering them as we go!!!!!!!

Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam

Monday, June 7, 2010

Morning from Mothering The Mother

I wanted to pop in and say Good Morning, Good Afternoon or even Good Evening depending on where and when you read this post.
It was a VERY busy weekend and it was actually a lot of fun. We had some great time at the park yesterday with our little 4 year old class at the park. We were only able to have 3 of them and their families but what an awesome time. To be able to sit and share with the other Mom's and for Dad's to get to talk and watch the kids play and play and play. It was just sooo refreshing. Yes, it was HOT but the Lord really provided. We had some cloud cover as well as an awesome breeze. He had truly provided the day and for that we are so grateful.
I have something new for tomorrow's post. I am so excited about it and I am so praying that people will really jump in and help me with it. You will have to check back tomorrow and check it out.
I'm going to be doing a lot more blogging it appears which of course is not a problem for me at all because I so enjoy doing it. I and my friend Tara over at Monkeying Around on the sidebar take care of the church's Women's Ministry Blog. It's an exciting adventure. She is a very busy mom of 3 and a homeschooling mom at that. To me, that completely fills up your plate with not a lot left. She is awesome and so VERY busy. I'm excited and have a lot I would love to share. Make sure that you hope over and visit sometime. You don't have to be a member to see the blog. It's a lot of fun and we have a great time.
Just in case, here is the link button for you.....
Please check in tomorrow......EXCITING time here on the blog!!!!!!!

Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam

Friday, June 4, 2010

Five Question Friday

1. If you could go back to college would you change your major? Or, if you were to go to college right now...what major would you choose? My major was to be nursing. I didn't finish but if I could go back right now I would for sure go for Midwife!!!!!! Childbirth and women's health are my passion.
2. What do you love most about your home? It is just right. It's big enough but not to big but for some reason, I can't seem to keep it clean. LOVE my balcony.
3. What types of books do you like to read (if you like to read at all)? Christian Fiction!!!!!!
4. What is the grossest thing you've ever eaten? I ate Yak in Nepal. I ate Goat in Ukraine. Water Buffalo in India........It actually was not bad at all!!!!!!!
5. If you HAD to be a character on a TV show, whom would you be? A non-cussing version of Jillian!!!!! I could so be a Jillian......some of my friends would attest to that. I just don't cuss. I am even willing to go on a cruise with her.......I thought the point of a cruise was to relax but to be inspired and encouraged by her for a week would be AWESOME!!!!
NOW IT"S YOUR TURN!!!!! Link up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
By the way...THANK YOU Mama M for allowing me to be the "Date of the Week"!!!!!!!!
Doula Mama Pam

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Thinking Thursday

Well, it's that kind of day. Thinking........Thinking....... and Thinking again. Sometimes I think that we just think to much. Do you ever feel like that? I k now I do and when I get in this "Thinking" mode it usually gets me in trouble. Well, hopefully this will not be a post that will do that but just wanting to share some thoughts and get some ideas and feedback!!!!! So with all of that being said, let's get started

I went thru sometime here recently where I question why I do what I do. Have you done that? I know that I work full time. I have come to the realization that He has me here for a reason. I don't doubt that for a moment. At the same time I want so much more. More for myself and my family as well as my patients and clients. There are so many opportunities that I see and that others don't see. If there was a way to take off the blinds I would but He doesn't allow me to do that and that is up to Him and not me.
Do you have dreams? I think that we all do. I know that I have them. My problem lies in the fact that they are exactly that...My Dreams/Desires. I was listening to the radio the other day and they had one of the newest Contemporary Christian Artist on and I think it was Britt Nicole. I could be wrong but she made a statement that has kind of stuck with me. She was talking about when she was younger and trying to "make it in the music industry". She stated, "I gave my dreams over to the Lord and let Him do with them what He saw fit".....WOW!!!!! I have had that stuck in my head for about a week. My first thought was "What are your dreams?" Of course the brain started thinking and here we are a week later and I am still making my list. I thought I would share it here and then as things start happening or He chooses to change me and in turn change my DREAMS. I hope that makes sense.
So, sharing from my heart, I give you my list.
What I would love is if you would share yours. The comment section is big enough so feel free to type away!!!!!!
1-To be all that He has created me to be.
2-To be and do what He desires for me.
3-To be the Godly Wife, Mother and friend that I can.
4-To be a Birth Doula at the office that I work in
5-To be a Childbirth Educator at the office I work in.
6-To be a Lactation Counselor at the office I work in.
7-To be a Personal Trainer/Fitness Nut (that's the only way I can word that one)
8-To be an encouraging Blogger for those that read.
9-To write a book about my life experience
10-To follow what He wants me to do and if that means, things have to come off of "My List", I would be and will accept it.

Now that I have shared, it's your turn.
What are your desires?
What does your heart want you to do?
Can't wait to read!!!!!!!!!!
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

WOW Wednesday

Ok, confession time. It's really Tuesday night when I am writing this but I just couldn't help myself. It's 11:17pm and I am wide awake and my adrenaline is going so therefore I do what any other Blogger would do....BLOG!!!!!
Just finished watching "Losing it with Jillian". First thing off the top......
LOVE IT!!!!!! I can remember the first season of Biggest Loser and to compare that Jillian with today's Jillian is totally different. It has been a transformation on her behalf and she may have no idea but I can see it. It's just amazing.
Second....I am so totally motivated I could just bust. I watched tonight about the young lady who had the Gastric Bypass at 21. She is a beautiful young woman. At the same time, her physical body is obviously VERY different but in her head, she was still the "big girl". She couldn't accept a compliment and even confessed it was all in her head. WOW!!!!! I have never had Gastric Bypass surgery but I know exactly what she is talking about. I was that "big girl". I've been there when you are young and have to go to "The Big Girl" section. When EVERYTHING you buy is XL or worse, XXL. When you don't want to sit on a ride at the park because you can't breath when they put the bar down in front of you. You dread summer coming. You hate the mirror. You dread getting dressed everyday. It's not a place that I would wish on anyone. I have some AWESOME friends and family that pushed me to run for 30 seconds on the treadmill just one time and they promised they would leave me alone. I did it to get them to be quiet and over 50 pounds later, they still push me. I have caught the running, change in lifestyle, change in eating habits and I refuse to go there again.
I watched tonight as this young woman confronted her issues and thought to myself as I heard Jillian use THAT word again .....CHOICE!!!! Failure is a CHOICE was the wording that she used. I can make lots of choices every day. Even with the present weight that I am, I still have about 20-25 more to get rid of. So, here are my CHOICES that I CAN make.....
CHOOSE to go to the gym when I am tired.
CHOOSE to eat what I should and not necessarily what I want.
CHOOSE to drink the water that I know that I need.
CHOOSE to be the person that He created me to be.
CHOOSE to accept a compliment when given.
CHOOSE to believe it when someone tells me that I look great.
CHOOSE to believe that quiting is NOT an option.
CHOOSE to believe and push further than the last workout.
CHOOSE to do more because I can because of Him.
What do you need to CHOOSE today?

Doula "Running the Race" Mama Pam

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Testimony Tuesday

Well, I had to borrow today from my church's women's ministry blog. Today over there is Testimony Tuesday. Feel free to click on the heart and it will take you over there and you can read and be encouraged. Anyway, it was a great weekend and a long one at that and not to mention a very much needed one for sure. Anyway, I have needed to sit down and tell about this for a couple of days but couldn't seem to find the time to do it. So, let's get going.......
Giving Testimony to what He can do when you are doing what He has called you to do.
I had a delivery last week. It was at a local hospital and we were just waiting for him to make his entrance. No concern over induction or anything of that nature. I on the the other hand was experiencing a brief episodes of panic when I would try to figure out all the "What ifs". I have discovered with every delivery I do this. Anyway, it was a normal day at work with a lot going on. My husband works at a nursing home and "The State" had decided to do their evaluation. STRESS WAS SOOOO VERY HIGH!!!!!! Anyway, I went about my day as usual. I had a new OB interview at 4pm. When I stopped in my office to pick up something my phone beeped. A message was left and a missed call from "Mom". "My water broke". Perfect!!!!! I called her back, she was calm and getting things together. It was almost time for me to leave. Perfect! Her last delivery was a VERY LONG ONE!!!! I was nervous for her but decided to see how things went and just put it in His hands. Got to the hospital at 6pm. Forgot to eat dinner on the way....ooops! Made it through the hours with her and hubby in the shower, walking the hallways, walking in the room, sitting on the side of the bed, doing great and it was VERY intense. She opted for an epidural. (This was 9:45pm-remember this time). There was a 20 minute wait because they were in another room so she opted for Stadol. Went through the effects of Stadol with her and she was READY. 20 beautiful minutes of perfect rest. Total relaxation. She was only at 3 1/2 to 4 when she got the Stadol. THEN, it started to wear off. She was wide awake and the tears were coming. Then the statement that you wait to hear "I gotta push". I thought, there is no way. You were just 3-4 20 MINUTES AGO!!!! I had to leave due to hospital regulations during the epidural. I took a wrong turn because this is not the hospital I was familiar with. I turned around and there was "Dad". "You need to get back in here". I was fearful something was terribly wrong. No, nothing wrong, just time to have a baby. After 5 pushes, we had a very healthy, happy, beautiful baby boy!!!!!!! IT WAS AWESOME!!!!!! Baby born at 10:42. WOW!!!!!!!
HE was so totally at work. Here are the parts that I just love........
He had me to receive the phone call at the right time at work.
No problems leaving work.
Kaleb was taken care of thanks to my AWESOME husband who supports me so much in the life of being a DOULA!!!!
No problems with delivery.
It was a fast delivery.
No problem with having to miss work......THIS IS THE 25th BABY and STILL NO INTERFERENCE WITH WORK!!!!!!
Home before to late.
I had no money (cash) in my wallet when I was leaving and worried about how to get out of the parking deck.
Praying all the way to the car and when I got to the gate.......It was wide open and NO FEE TO BE PAID!!!!!!!
Safe travel home.
McDonalds drive thru is open late.
Had about 4 hours of great sleep and back to work the next day.

Just needed to share this morning!!!!!! Thanks for stopping by!!!!!!!!

Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam