"I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus" Phil. 3:14
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Answers To Tuesdays Thoughts
Well, this was not good. If you checked here earlier there was nothing on the page.....DUH!!!!! That is what happens when you try to pre-post and it doesn't work. Not very smart!!!!!!
Ok, answers to the questions that I posed on Tuesday this week.
1- Did you complete your resolutions that you made this year? The answer to that would be.....NOT!!!!
- I didn't get to sign up for the race I was really hoping to go back and do in Myrtle Beach in 2010.
-I didn't lose the weight that I have fought all year. (Honestly, I didn't try all that hard....all you have to do is read the Not Me Monday's to see that)
-I did not get the job change I was hoping for but I have not given up.
-I did not figure out a way to keep my children little and dependent on me. The old saying "putting a brick on your head to stop you from growing" is not an option.
2- Most exciting part of 2009
-Watching my children grow up
-Celebrating a 1 year marriage anniversary
-Helping all of the women become Mom's
-Jumping into becoming a Childbirth Educator
-Seeing close friends from the Ukraine when they came to the states
-Becoming a Certified Perinatal Fitness Instructor
There is so much more but so not enough room to write.
3-What did you struggle with the most in 2009?
- Learning what tough love is
-Learning to let you child make decisions and watch them fail.
-Struggling to keep my hands off and letting go when it's time.
4-What did God do for me this year?
-There is not a blog big enough for me to write this one out. He has been my Rock, My Healer, My Deliverer, My Strength, My Everything!!!!!
5-What is your greatest accomplishment?
-Maintaining my sanity when life felt like it was total chaos (but that was ONLY because of Him and my awesome Hubby)
-Certification pending in 2 areas and looking forward to what He would have me do with them.
Ok, now it's your turn........What are the answers to your questions????????
Have a great New Year's Eve!!!!!!!!! Be safe!!!!!!
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Tuesday and Thinking.....OH NO!!!!!
My 21 year old spent Christmas Eve and Christmas day at our house. It was simply awesome and I just loved every minute of it. My youngest was into every present he could get his hands on. We have discovered his "sweet tooth" is growing. He was constantly on the look out for more "choc-lat". On of my "cooking friends" sent some goodies that she had made. If it was in site, the little hands were trying to get that cute little snowman box and see what other "choc-lat" was in there. He got a tool bench for Christmas that he loves. He hammers, uses the measuring tape, screwdriver and we are working on the wrench. He is just tooo funny.
Thank you so much for your prayers for Amber and her family. She and Kyle came over last night and Kaleb had not seen her in a long time and he just could not get to her quick enough and just loved on her. It was soooo sweet. He showed out for her and even shared his "choc-lat" with her. It was just precious.
We have a daughter that I have written about before on her with much heartache and many tears shed. She is still doing as she pleases and we have come to the point that we can't do anymore than what we have already done. We are cutting apron strings so to speak and it is hard but it is necessary. I would ask that you would continue to keep us in your prayers. This has been very difficult and a very gut wrenching situation but I hang on to what He can do and He is in ultimate control!!!!!!!! Can you say Amen to that?
I have many things to share about the Doula side of the world and working on a couple of post about that. I'm so excited. I can't wait to share about that.
I hope you all have an awesome day and think about your 2009. Here are some questions to ponder.....
-Did you complete your resolutions that you made?
-What was the most exciting part of 2009?
-What did you struggle with this year in 2009?
-What did God do for you this year in 2009?
-What was your greatest accomplishment?
Now, of course I can't pose those questions and not answer them........You will have to check in later and I will post my answers.......... Leave your answers in the comments. Please feel free to share!!!!!
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam
Monday, December 28, 2009
Not Me Monday
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Christmas and John 3:16
The little boy was so cold that he wasn't trying to sell many papers.
He walked up to a policeman and said,"Mister, you wouldn't happen to know where a poor boycould find a warm place to sleep tonight would you?
You see, I sleep in a box up around the corner there and down the alley and it's awful cold in there for tonight. Sure would be nice to have a warm place to stay."
The policeman looked down at the little boy and said, "Yougo down the street to that big white house and you knockon the door. When they come out the door you just sayJohn 3:16, and they will let you in."
So he did. He walked up the steps and knocked on the door, and a lady answered. He looked up and said,"John 3:16." The lady said, "Come on in, Son."
She took him in and she sat him down in a split! bottomrocker in front of a great big old fireplace, and she went off. The boy sat there for a while and thought to himself:John 3:16 . I don't understand it, but it sure makes acold boy warm.
Later she came back and asked him "Are you hungry ? "He said, "Well, just a little.. I haven't eaten in a couple ofdays, and I guess I could stand a little bit of food,"
The lady took him in the kitchen and sat him down to a table full of wonderful food. He ate and ate until he couldn't eatany more. Then he thought to himself:John 3:16. Boy, I sure don't understand it but it suremakes a hungry boy full.
She took him upstairs to a bathroom to a huge bathtub filled with warm water, and he sat there and soaked for awhile. As he soaked, he thought to himself: John 3:16 I sure don't understand it, but it sure makes a dirty boyclean. You know, I've not had a bath, a real bath, in my whole life. The only bath I ever had was when I stood infront of that big old fire hydrant as they flushed it out.The lady came in and got him. She took him to a room,tucked him into a big old feather bed, pulled the covers up around his neck, kissed him goodnight and turned outthe lights. As he lay in the darkness and looked out thewindow at the snow coming down on that cold night,he thought to himself: John 3:16...I don't understand it but it sure makes a tired boy rested.
The next morning the lady came back up and took himdown again to that same big table full of food. After heate, she took him back to that same big old split bottom rocker in front of the fireplace and picked upa big old Bible.
She sat down in front of him and looked into his young face."Do you understand John 3:16 ?" she asked gently. Hereplied, "No, Ma'am, I don't. The first time I ever heard it was last night when the policeman told me to use it,"She opened The Bible to John 3:16 and began to explainto him about Jesus. Right there, in front of that big old fireplace,he gave his heart and life to Jesus. He sat there and thought: John 3:16 -- don't understand it, but it suremakes a lost boy feel safe.
You know, I have to confess, I don't understand it either,how God was willing to send His Son to die for me, and howJesus would agree to do such a thing. I don't understand theagony of the Father and every angel in heaven as they watched Jesus suffer and die. I don't understand the intenselove for ME that kept Jesus on the cross tillthe end.I don't understand it, but it sure does make life worth living!
John 3:16- For God so loved the world, that He gave His onlybegotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him shouldnot perish, but have everlasting life.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
MY 200th POST!!!!!!
Some of you have been with me since I started and some have just found me. I have "Not Me Mondays", "Not My Child Monday's", Wordless Wednesdays, What children will say Wednesdays, Thoughtful Thursdays, Super Supper Saturday and Sundays and numerous other titled post. I have changed my background and my layout countless times. I have even purchased specialized link back buttons and now have numerous friends that have started their own blog and there is no way to keep track of how many other blogs I read and try to follow. I have even made some great friends a long the way.
This has truly been an adventure for me.
My very first entry here
Angel's Story here
My First Deliveries here
My First Announcement of my Website here
My First Adoption Delivery here
One Friend started blogging here
Another Friend started blogging here
Updates on tough love situations and hard decisions made here and here
Of course ANY week that you pull up, there will something posted about Kaleb, also known as Little Man.
I now have two friends that are blogging Cindy and Tara and working on another friend but she has not given in yet....but I am not giving up on her.
It has been a joy and a ride and God is not finished by any means. I'm overwhelmed by what He is doing. Mothering The Mother is still growing and changing and there a lot of challenges but He is ultimately in control and I am so thankful for that. I have a lot of deliveries on the way so please stay tuned. 2010 is going to be a busy year and a packed year for Mothering The Mother. I can't wait to see what He has planned. Keep a watch on the website because I am going to work on changing it and updating it with more pictures and some other ideas.
Thank you again for stopping by if you have just found me or if you have been here since the beginning. How cool it is that this post comes right before the new year.
Laboring and Sharing With You,
Doula Mama Pam
Monday, December 21, 2009
Not Me Monday
It's that time again!!!!!! Not much to share this week but enough I am sure.
I did not go to the store for the 2nd week in a row to discover that not only Wal-Mart but my grocery store was almost out of pretzels........I'm so sorry for all of you that are getting pretzels....LOL
I did not make Oreo Bonbon's and threaten my husband over eating them because they are for work. (They are chocolate covered sin!!!! YUMMY).
I did not place my 2 1/2 year old on the counter with a small hammer in hand and teach him how to crush peppermints for peppermint bark.
I did not go to church on Sunday and realize that I left my Bible at home........That was NOT good.
I did not send my 21 year old home with a bag of "Christmas Treats" and immediately text his step-mom to let her know he had it in his possession so they would not end up in his room.
I did not get to stay home on Saturday ALONE with my 2 1/2 year in my pj's until late that afternoon (like 4pm) when I put on clothes long enough to go to the store and come home and put them back on for the evening.
I did not go to church and listen to our Awesome Christmas Musical/Drama and cry though 1/2 of it because I realized that I had completely lost focus of what Christmas is about.
Have an awesome week.
Merry Christmas!!!!!!
Doula Mama Pam
********My 200th post is tomorrow********* What an awesome thing.....Never dreamed*****
Friday, December 18, 2009
It's A Birth Story!!!!!!
This is the story of Connor. He is a very sweet and precious little boy that I had the pleasure of meeting in November of this year. I met his Mom, Kim, and his Dad, Sam, earlier. I was able to do their interview at our office. They were so excited and could not wait to meet this sweet little bundle of joy.
Kim, being the faithful one to exercise, was still going to the gym up until about the week or so before her due date. She had a goal in mind and she was going to stick with it. She was absolutely glowing and a very beautiful pregnant Mom. Sam attended all of her prenatal visits. They were always smiling and never seemed to complain. They contacted me to become their Doula at delivery and I was so thrilled to be a part of such a wonderful and special event in their life. We met on numerous occasions. We talked about fears, excitement, making plans and talking about life after Connor arrived. Everything was ready but we were just missing Connor.
Late one evening my cell phone went off. It was Sam. “I think we are in labor”. I was so excited. Of course, all the normal questions followed. How is Kim? How often? How far apart? He was so calm. I was just amazed. He continued to keep me updated through out the evening. Kim was handling them like a real champ. Kim did not want to go to the hospital to find out she would be sent back home. When she and Sam made the decision to go to the hospital, they called to let me know they were headed there to see what kind of progress they had made.
It was a moment that I won’t soon forget. Connor was precious. Sam was beaming and Kim was doing great. I had the privilege to meet with them several times afterwards and everyone is doing great. He has grown so much. This will be a very special Christmas in Sam and Kim’s home. Connor may not remember this one as he gets older but I can promise you that Sam and Kim will always remember this Christmas! To Kim and Sam, I want to tell you thank you so much for allowing me to be apart of the day that you as a couple became a family. It was truly a privilege and an honor.
Laboring With You,
Pam (a.k.a Doula Mama)
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Thoughtful Thursdays
I can still hear the cadence when I see any sort of military "commercial" on TV. I can still hear the jets flying over head. I can still hear the engines roar as they prepare for take off. I was proud to be a military wife. Scared out of my mind at times. I'll never forget the phone call that came in the middle of the night and he was told to report to his station at once and be prepared to leave. We didn't know where. We didn't know how long. We were scared to death!!!! I was pregnant and being left behind. Several hours later and many tears shed, he returned home. It was only a drill.
While pregnant with Kyle, he was deployed to 29 Palms. It was the longest 2 months. I was a stay at home wife. I was also very pregnant. I had this very small "baby bump" when he left and when he came back 8 weeks before delivery, his first question was "What happened?".
All of this to say, I wanted to tell you about a VERY special program. It's called "Operation Special Delivery". In light of the fact that the President is sending more troops to Afganistan, I have been so burdened for the "Mom's To Be" that are left behind and not knowing if their husbands will be home for the birth of their baby. In Operation Special Delivery (OSD), they get in the request from a Mom-To-Be to have a Doula at her delivery. This is of NO COST to the Mom. The Doula is stricktly a volunteer and donates her time to help and support this Mom. I keep going back to the site and reading and reading and reading it again. I can not imagine what it must be like. I have heard stories from the nurses at the hospital about how they will set up the computers with the camera's so they can Skype the Dad into the delivery room so that he does not miss anything. From what I understand, there is never a dry eye in the room. At the bottom of the post is their website. I would encourage you to go and see it. Read about what they do. It is just amazing. I am really praying about volunteering to do a delivery for a precious Military Mom who is home while Dad is serving our country. What a blessing that no amount of money could ever repay!!!!!! I will keep you posted on my decision and let you know.
In the words of the Marines...... Semper Fi (Oooo Raaa!!)
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam
http://www.operationspecialdelivery.com/index.htm
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Tuesday's Ramblings
Life in the Kennedy household is just nuts it's seems lately. We have had so much going on but I think that is the same in every home lately. As Christmas is so very fast approaching, things seem to even get a little worse. Have you ever had those days when you think "If I could have just one day"? I know I have had that a lot lately and that "one day" does not seem to come very often and when it does, my list is so long there is no way on this earth that I could ever get done all that I want or need to do.
I don't think this is the way that life should be. It should be busy but not THIS busy. Speaking, not only for us, but in talking to other families that I know, we have something on Monday night, Tuesday night, Wednesday night and Thursday night as well. We finally make it to Friday and there is always something that thrown in at the last minute on that night as well and the weekend is shot before we ever get there.
In all of the busy-ness, I have chosen to take some time over the next couple of weeks prior to January and really look at calendars and schedules and what is coming up that we have already planned for and really look at what is going on and what can we say "No" to and what are we committed to. Things that we are committed to would be first, Our Lord and His plan. Second would be husbands and wives and children. Everything else seems to need it's place but we have to meet with the Lord first. I heard it once said that if your vertical relationship is right then the horizontal will be right. First is finding our what He would have "us" and "me" to do. The other "stuff" that seems to want our attention maybe things that we need to put to the side. This is not easy. I am not one that says "No" to anyone and that is usually what gets me into this busy-ness. Come January 1st, I'm praying that I get better at saying "No" to people and more "Yes" to what the Lord is asking of me.
What are somethings that you struggle with? Are you and your family to "busy"? Feel free to share your thoughts......
Laboring with You,
Doula Mama Pam
Monday, December 14, 2009
Not Me Monday
Saturday, December 12, 2009
More Christmas Cooking
This is one of my favorites. Yes, I know, I say that every week. But this is one that my Dad makes and I just love them. They are so easy and so tasty. I have had others at parties and at different events but there is always something REALLY good about the ones that he makes.
Daddy's Sausage Balls
1 pound of your favorite sausage (hot or mild)-almost room temp
8 oz of sharp cheddar cheese. (NOT PRE-SHREDDED) Grated and at almost room temp
3 cups of Bisquick
Place all of the ingredients in a large bowl. Take off your rings and your fake nails (just kidding) and start mixing. Really mix well until everything is totally incorporated.
Start with a small spoon, small cookie scoop or just pinch off enough to make the size of sausage ball you want. Roll into balls and place on a cookie sheet. Now you have a choice to make. You can place them on the cookie sheet and freeze before cooking or you can cook them and then freeze them. Either way, they are AWESOME!!!!!! If you chose to cook them, place them in pre-heated oven of 365 degrees. Typically about 10 minutes but keep an eye on them, depending on how big you have made them.
ENJOY!!!!!!!
Laboring and Cooking with You,
Doula Mama Pam
Friday, December 11, 2009
Fabulous Friday
I will hopefully be getting off early so that we can go see the lights at Tanglewood in Clemmons this evening. We have been trying for 2 weeks. First try was not happening because a little boy had not had a nap all day. Second try was not happening because the temperature was dropping and we were not sure what the weather was going to do because it was raining. Oh, how I pray that this time we get to go. There is just something magical about driving through Tanglewood and seeing the lights, not only from an adult perspective but from an almost 3 year olds perspective. I just love it!!!!!!! You can not help but get ready for Christmas!!!!!!
What are some of your family traditions?
-Do you have a "Happy Birthday Jesus Cake?"
-Do you sing songs or play games?
-Do you leave out cookies for Santa?
-Do you put out Reindeer food?
Leave some of your traditions in the comments and share them.
Thanks for stopping by.
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Thoughtful Thursday
It has been a tough week or so and I am having to learn to let go of a particular situation that has been with me for approximately 10 years. If you are a close friend or family, you will know of what I am talking about. In the midst of all of the chaos that seems to surround, I find myself wanting to do what Billy Graham's Mother would do with her many small children at her feet. Sit down and take my apron and cover my head and just be with my Savior. Even if it was only for a few moments. In the midst of this coming season or even your season of life, take the time, cover your head and just be still with the Father. It is worth it and so is He. So, it seems that it has become a routine here on this blog to do an accrostic (at least that is what I think it is correctly called). So let's do one today.
T-Truth with the world is so full of lies
H-He is my hiding place
U-Unconditional Love
R-Rock
S-Savior
D-DayStar
A-Abba Father
Y-Yolk is easy (especially when I don't fight Him about it)
Thank you for stopping by. Stop and Be sometime today.
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Testimony Tuesday
This was a post that I did about 2 weeks ago for our church's women's ministry blog. We have and still are going through some very difficult times with our daughter and Bo has been my rock. So I thought it appropriate to share how awesome the Lord is and how much He loves me with not only my church family but those who may read my blog. Thanks for stopping by.
What does your Knight or Prince Charming look like to you? Is he perfect in every way? Is he tall, handsome, have eyes that make you melt, a set of six pack abs, is patient, kind, gentle, understanding? Is he a Godly Man? A man after God's own heart?Well, today I just want to testify to what God can do and has done in my life. You see, when Bo and I met, he learned probably in the first date or 2 about my daughter. She has some serious issues and some things that she is working through. She was actually at that time in a placement in Winston Salem and there had been a crisis that we needed to address. We went, crisis over and I knew that I would not hear from him again after that. Well, I was wrong. He continued to call and we continued to date and he learned all about what was going on in that situation. The hard part was that I was going to have to allow him to help me. Now, I was in the process of learning some independence and the last thing I thought I needed was the good looking guy, tall, eyes that made me melt, to help me. I was a big girl and I could handle it........NOT!!!!!!!! I needed him and the Lord knew I needed him. I didn't like giving up this new found independence but the Lord said that this is what I had to do. Bo and I married in 2008.This past week, God in His sovereignty, that I don't understand at times, allowed my daughter to come and stay with us for a period of time. We don't know how long. We don't know exactly what the next step is for her but I do know one thing.....God knew that I was going to need Bo. Bo knew way before me that I would need him but I had to make the choice. I'm here to say that I am so glad I let go of that independence. I could not have made it the last several days without him. He has stepped in and dealt with attorneys, probation officers and a million other people in the midst of what could be chaos. This is NOT what I had planned before. This is NOT what I thought would happen. This is NOT a surprise to the Lord. He knows what He is doing and I have to trust Him. I also have to let my husband be the man that he was created to be. He has let me cry, let me scream, let me just sit and be quiet and not say a word. He let me go and get my hair done because I needed it for me and that is not something I am good at doing. So, in the midst of my chaos and my stress, God placed with me with a Prince and my Knight and for that I can testify that God loves me and has a plan for me. Praise Him!!!!!!
In Him Only,
Doula Mama Pam
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Not Me Monday
I could not wait this week!!!!!
I did not quietly listen to a precious little girl in our 4 year old class explain to me that she has a family of mice living in her room and that she takes care of them and her mom is aware. We were discussing loud and soft and how the Angel had spoken softly to Mary when he told her that she was going to have Jesus.
I did not quietly listen to the above mentioned little girl tell me that she in fact did have an Angel visit her one night and she was not scared at all. This while discussing what our reaction would be if an Angel came to visit us.
I did not go to the gym and ran/walk 3 miles and could have kept going because it actually felt good. (I was so shocked)
I did not get on the Jacobs Ladder at the gym thinking I could add on 15-20 seconds and not die in the process........If they can do it on Biggest Loser, I should be able to do this!!!!!!!
I did not go to lunch with a friend and spend 2 solid hours talking and chatting over Mexican food.........YUMMY!!!!!!!!
I can't wait to see what you Have Not done this week.
Laboring With You,
Doula Mama Pam
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Here we are again on this countdown to Christmas. Looking for that special something to put in a cookie tin or a special little container. This is my oldest son, Kyle's, favorite thing that Mom makes during the holiday's. If he finds out it is at the house, he will be knocking on the door to get some. It's also a GREAT way to take out any stress or frustration you maybe feeling during the holidays, not that any of have that.....LOL
Kyle's Peppermint Bark
1 bag of Chocolate Melts ( You can use White, Dark or Milk Chocolate)
1 handful of small candy canes or small star burst peppermints (the little round red and white ones)
1 Cookie sheet covered in parchment paper or tinfoil
1 small hammer (told you it was good for frustration and stress)
Melt chocolate as directed. While chocolate is melting, take the peppermint candy of choice and hit it with the hammer on a cutting board. (LEAVE IT IN THE WRAPPER OR YOU WILL HAVE A MESS!!!!!) Once all the chocolate is melted and you are stress fee, unwrap the candy into the chocolate. Stir until well mixed. Pour melted chocolate onto the cookie sheet and spread out evenly. Place in refrigerator to harden. Do not put away the hammer yet. Once the chocolate has hardened, you are ready for the final preparation. Take a clean kitchen towel and flip the chocolate on to the towel. Peel off the tinfoil or parchment paper. Cover with another towel and hammer away until you get the size of bark that you want. I usually go no bigger than my palm. This is up to you. Then place your bark into containers and be prepared to watch it disappear!!!!!!!
Hope you have fun with this one!!!!!!
Laboring and Cooking With You,
Doula Mama Pam
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Tuesday Thought
This is what He is to me.......(Amazing that if I do this everyday, it would be so different)
T-He is TRUTH
U-He is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
E-He is ETERNAL
S-He is my SHIELD
D-He is my DAILY Bread
A-He is my ABBA Father
Y-He is my YESTERDAY, today and tomorrow
Who is He to you today?
Laboring with you,
Doula Mama Pam